Tuesday, June 22, 2010
my birthday
Today I am celebrating my 42nd birthday! With effort I put an exclamation point. I share my birthday with a beautiful lady - my mother in law who would have been 78 this year. As you may recall she's passed away about 7 mos ago right in the middle of my first break down. Our birthday this year just doesn't hold the excitement it used too. I used to always celebrate my birthday as a month rather than the just the day and she shared the same excitement. We rejoiced in sharing that same birthday since she adopted me into her family when Tony and I were just dating 21 years ago! He used to make us a cheesecake to celebrate - with cherries on top and we laugh and say if we ever got married there would be no way he could ever forget our birthdays! We used to go out to lunch for our birthdays together and when the waiter asked if we wanted to share our free dessert we just look at each other and laughed and in unison said 'NO". Then at the end we would exchange the checks and pay for each others lunch. We always had so much fun together. She is really on my mind today for obvious reasons and last night we went to a special mass for her with some of the family - it was nice. My hope is that next year that I can celebrate for the both of us without feeling so sad. I know you just gotta get past all the 'firsts' first. So Happy Birthday to us! I love you Mammaw! And miss you too!
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Happy Birthday to you Lisa and your Mammaw! It is difficult to have these firsts without a treasured person in your life. I know she is with you today. Please keep on remembering those special days you had with her because that is what keeps her with you! Remembering loved ones and talking about them is so important! I can tell that you loved her very much and she that she was a very special lady.
ReplyDeleteWhen my Grandmother passed away in the 1981, we were just so devestated to lose someone so special that no one ever talked about her very much. I think that is the saddest thing ever. We missed out so much on mourning her and kept it to ourselves.
Enjoy your day and try to do something special for yourself. Maybe you can think of a new tradition, in the spirit of the old that can bring up fond memories of your MIL, yet start you on new memories to carry through the coming years.